Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.

Bonjour mes petites :)

Here is the quiz you have all been waiting for, you can take it if you want, but if you would rather not know how well attached you are to your mother, father, loverr and best friend it probably isn't a good idea.

But then, as Andrew pointed out, if you get negative results for any/all of them you should take it in a positive way. It's a good way to find out how to improve your relationships, particularly since these 4 are probably the most significant in your life, at least at the moment.

If you would like a pep talk, please continue to read. If you're bored of my ramblings, feel free to just take the quiz and go :)

Low avoidance = you don't shy away from getting close to people, and you feel comfortable sharing your feelings with them. This is a positive thing, and it means you are on the way to having a secure attachment.

Low anxiety = this is the other necessary requirement for a secure attachment. This means you trust that person and don't often worry about them abandoning you (physically, but also emotionally) or not feeling the same way for you as you do about them.

So high anxiety and avoidance? If you have high avoidance you probably prefer to hide your emotions, which could be because you fear what will happen if you open up too much, or maybe you don't trust that attachment figure with your secrets. High anxiety means to be afraid that that person will leave you, does not love you and/or that you cannot depend upon them. These can all be rectified. Obviously this is a scale, not 4 options, so you could be bang in the middle of any of them, or you could be nearer one end.

Firstly, what ever you are, it is certainly not the end of the world. Attachments change, maybe because of changing circumstances, or just life and relationship experiences that help you to improve your attachments, or maybe weaken them. These things cannot be anticipated, but if you think about the types of relationships you want with your family and friends you can actively change them by being more open, responsive, dependant, independent, trusting, accepting, less clingy or what ever you can see in yourself that needs to change. It's up to you to make the differences. However, you cannot tell someone that their attachment to you is bad and expect them to change. If you want someone to behave in a way that will improve your relationship, its a two way thing. If you try to be better in what ever way you need to be, chances are, they will respond and change with you.

Oh, and do you want to read one of my favourite quotes ever?

"Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. 'Pooh?' he whispered.
'Yes, Piglet?'
'Nothing,' said Piglet, taking Pooh's hand. 'I just wanted to be sure of you.'"
— A.A. Milne (Winnie-the-Pooh)

Good luck lovelies :)